What matters the most in the relationship?

    

       What enters your mind when you think to involve in a person as a relationship. Plenty of things comes to the human mind when someone decides to hang around in a relationship. Everyone starts to spend interest towards love, affection, loyalty, care, understanding, or materialistic 1000 things. Though, the relationship doesn't work nowadays. Don't you get the same question why? Let's go for it deeply and step by step as follows:

What is love?

      ''LOVE'' _____means a very outstanding involvement and relaxation in something. It is a very intensive deep emotional attachment for someone. More so, the powerful emotion of affection, warmth, fondness, concern, and devotion for another person is accompanied by sexual attraction as well. Love is the feeling of kindness, it usually arises from kinship or healthy understanding. It means when you are with your loved ones you are free to laugh free to cry as love is the pure freedom of every sensation. Presently, pure love is very rare in this materialistic world. As long as, love is an undying thing and a simple element for the greatest joy. it's not like you finding it and losing it again and again. If this manner of things happens to you, you can't say it is love cause love is a very deep creature. Sequentially, in the love feeling, you always strive to become a better person and this effort makes your surroundings better too, this is the good mysticism of it. However, you have to owe some responsibilities in love too. Prima facie, you have to accept love and care are not only responsibilities in the relationship. As well as, open communication, acceptance of each other's deficiencies, actions-reactions towards something connected to both. Everything is valuable in a relationship. Additionally, others' happiness is also your responsibility in love. Clarity and awareness about each other feelings help you to absolve your partner and yourself as well. Mildness is there too, it builds trust in your relationship. Likewise, disciplines, if you love someone you have to give the level of discipline to prove your love and affection to the person. Furthermore, respecting each other's, giving personal space, sometimes adjusting for each other, helping in working, healthier financial effort from two sides and uncountable trust is the major of love. 

What is the most important thing in a relationship? 

     This is an extensive question we often ask our loved ones what is most crucial in a relationship?  Everyone will precisely say most importantly love likewise trust, loyalty, understanding, care, etc. I believe those are subordinate things in any relationship as I heeded somewhere, the love between two people is the ultimate thing. If we consider it very deeply when we notice two people we cant understand their relationship means they are happy or sad with each other but when we notice their friendship we can at least assume their happiness. Because friendship has the power to define every relation very neatly and thoroughly. We often say that friendship is very essential in every relationship because friendship is the basis of a relationship. The reason for that, a relationship does not only indicates a love relation moderately it's a deep long-lasting friendship of two souls.  

Why only love is not enough in a relationship? 

      In this era, everyone craves love. Even though, all try to find love without friendship or previous acquaintance of person. Youngsters start relationships with new people in only two-three days of acquaintance. Hence, this kind of relationship lasts for 3 to 6 months barely this is fatal of nowadays relationship. The explanation for that is again lack of friendship. People think love and care are the way to bloom their relationship but it's a delusion of the human mind. More to the point, a soul needs the same heartful person to express totally without insecurities. Similarly, a deep soul needs a deep soul too. Although, it's very rare nowadays, Clear to the point, the absence of friendship is elucidating in the present relationship that is why the divorce and break-ups measure is increasing rapidly. However, it is a very questionable thing for the human spirit. Humans always stay dependent on their relations and close ones, but if your cherished one is your friend, your proper communication can fade this problem from your life.

Why does friendship play a vital role in a relationship? 

    The answer to this question is very natural. Every human desires someone in their life with whom they can be free without any filters or boundaries of demeanor. He or she always needs someone to behave like a committed friend for a lifetime without any relationships rules and conditions. Therefore, any relationship can't dwell long-lasting without a meaningful friendship. Illustrious monk Shree Gaur Gopal das once said in his Satsang, friendship is the foundation of every relationship. Yes! he is exactly honest about it. In the whole world, any manner of relationship can be your pressure many times except a true, honest, and real friendship. Moreover, the widespread truth is no one has a connotation about you better than your friend. There are many things in the world that you can not express to your family or anyone at that time you usually try to convey your problems and feelings to your friend. A true friend knows everything about you including your up-downs, good-bad times, success stories, struggles, mental battles everything. Though, he or she still stays with you which means you are in a true relationship. No doubt about it because that is the power of friendship and I conceive when you think about to involved in someone as a soulmate you should compute this quality before commitments. Moreover, when you want to love someone at that time firstly you should be the best friend of that person and after friendship still, you love and respect intensively with the same then you can name them your soulmate and definitely, you can prefer them for your life trip. The reason for that as I mentioned above, in the friendship we don't use filters instead we don't need to use them. Contrary in a love relationship you must have to use filters to impress another one. You use plenty of materialistic things to praise them. But when you truly love someone about their real and natural flows then these filters don't take place. Finally, friendship among you two can be a real charisma of your relationship.

What does filter mean in a relationship?

     Friendship is a very needed aspect of the relationship. We can befriend without filters in a friendship but in love, it's very harsh. Safe to say that, love without filters is very few in today's era. Filter means not a camera filter. It means the filter of true feelings, the filter of honesty, the filter of kindness, the filter of you love someone but you don't, the filter of many things that you are not fond of with it. I conceive, in a true relationship or a true friendship, things happen without these filters because when you behave real and honest with the person you love at that time that person's realism is enough for your pure relationship. Sequentially, we know filters can demise one day but the reality and the personality of the human stay till the last. At present people use greedy filters for a relationship but these filters are the fake side of human lives and we often say fake can't resist for long. In a friendship, you express thoroughly your true feelings, natural demeanor, life goals, sluggishness about ample things, every positive-negative aspect of your existence. Everything you share with your friend is the main thing that creates a secure partnership towards love. Therefore, make sure the person you are choosing over everybody is choosing you too without filters and with your every flaw and good-bad habits. Trust, respect, craziness, loyalty, love, and lifetime companionship belongs to a true friendship. That is why a genuine friendship can create a very secure and long-lasting love bond.

  What is the benefit of friendship in a relationship?

      Everything has countless advantages and advantages that make our life more enjoyable. To acquire relationship benefits you have to be a good friend of your loved ones. For this purpose, ask them their every problem, create a cheerful bond with your love to catch their feeling. Initiate to be your cared one's promising friend because when you start to become someone's buddy automatically you will gain a true soulmate of yours with whom you can share your every emotion without the anxiety or insecurity of anything. So then, the one who will help you to fix everything and will hear your struggles and see your success with pride as well. Choose your soulmate with this quality, Choose it wisely and always be the reliable friend of your loved ones. Cause in this kind of relationship you will be 100% natural you for the lifetime without filters. As you can see, when you become the soulmate of your friend you do not need to be very formal with your better half as you both are given extra value to befriend. Moreover, at that time you both feel very safe being your original self, it's a soul connection. So, if your soulmate is your friend it means they know about your best and worst so in your rough times they can be your life-long cheerleader too. Additionally, Independence, support, freedom also belong from the good friendship with all these things you can feel happy and secure. Mainly, finding love and friendship in one person is a boon and it will give you the sense of security that will be the freedom of your lifetime insecurity and immutable happiness.

Thank you!

Written By- Vaishali Ashok Khatikmare

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